You’re not perfect and you don’t have to be (here’s why)

The flower in the picture above is missing a petal, but does that make it any less of a flower or any less beautiful?… I have to admit that I’m quite the perfectionist. I like everything to be in its right place. I like every ‘T’ crossed and every ‘I’ dotted. I like for it […]

15 tips for finding forgiveness when there’s no forgetting

Last week I wrote about why forgiveness is important, and this week I want to write about how to find forgiveness. It’s about removing those chains that have been attached to you for too long now. You can’t change the past. You can’t make the past better. You get no do overs. However, you can forgive. […]

In order to move on, you have to forgive (them and you)

Let me start by asking a question – Where has not forgiving someone gotten you? If you’ve been badly hurt by someone in the past then it’s normal to find it hard to forgive, but not forgiving only holds you back. Think about it…when you can’t forgive someone you hold on to anger, bitterness and […]

Forget revenge, try sympathy instead

Sometimes it’s hard to move on from being hurt because you can’t stop thinking about getting revenge. In this post, I want to talk about a rather controversial topic that I believe is at the heart of being able to move on. Instead of wanting revenge, I’m talking about having sympathy for the abuser. This […]

How being bitter only poisons you

I love that quote by Nelson Mandela because we are capable of creating our own prisons if we’re not careful with our feelings. If we hold on to bitterness and hatred then we will be imprisoned in our own mind, unable to achieve the freedom that we deserve. I get it. When you’ve been hurt […]