How to Trust and Connect with Others After Not Feeling Safe

How to Trust and Connect with Others After Not Feeling Safe with Monica Martin

In this episode, I’m joined by Monica Martin of Monica joins me to share her story of how she has been able to overcome physical and emotional abuse, which left her not being able to trust others or connect with them, to finding her tribes of people who she can trust and enjoy meaningful connections with.

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The Details

Traumatic experience:

Monica experienced physical and emotional abuse growing up. She was physically abused by her grandfather from around the ages of 5 to 8 and she grew up in an environment where it wasn't safe for her to express her emotions.

Effects of the traumatic experience:

Monica had trouble trusting others and connecting with them because it was never safe for her to do so. She developed disorganized attachment disorder where she was experiencing conflicting emotions. She also felt like she was a bad person and that she didn't deserve to be in the world.

Overcoming the traumatic experience:

Monica tried different types of therapy and it has been a therapy that uses what's called the Hakomi Method that has helped her the most. Boxing has also allowed her to heal by helping her move through her emotions in a different way than in other healing techniques.

What Monica does today:

Monica is a Ph.D. student in East-West Psychology. She also teaches people how to be present and be in their body. She's also creating a program that will teach others how to teach this way as well.

Final Question:

Given what you know now, if you could go back to when you were going through the tough times and give yourself one piece of advice, what would it be?

Monica's Answer: You are loved.

Links Mentioned - Monica's website where you can learn more about her work

Phoenix Collective Experience - Monica's Facebook group where you can receive support from others

Hakomi Institute - Where you can learn more about the Hakomi Method and find many related resources

Monica (at) MonicaMartin (dot) org - Monica's email address if you'd like to reach out to her

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  1. Love this interview!!! Thank you for doing what you do : )

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